The Emotional Experience of a Thing
Once upon a time, I was nervous about a thing. Back then I was baseline nervous all the time but this was extra, specific worry. I don’t even remember the thing now, but I never forgot the lesson. I was “having the emotional experience of risk,” as a friend described it to me. The emotional […]
Upgrade Your System
We’re born to be in relationship. As kids, we must attach to the adults around us to survive. Maybe you needed to be on-guard around the adults around you. Maybe the adults around you were scary. Avoiding them was smart. Be a small target, Don’t be vulnerable. Maybe you had to worry over the grown-up […]
Think Like a Therapist
Last month the universe gave me a gift. I’d planned a trip to New York City in 2024 to run a half marathon in Brooklyn in April 2025. Raceday happened to fall on the same weekend as Sessions Live 2025. Sessions is Esther Perel’s brand for her professional training programs. I went to Sessions Live […]
On Moving
Hi from Berkeley, CA. I’m writing to you from my home office in the Bay Area. After 30 years in Houston, TX I have a new hometown. So far, it’s great. When I talk to people about moving they’ll often ask, “Why Berkeley?” I say, “I bought a home in Berkeley site unseen and before […]
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Thanks for being here. This is the spot where I’m going to say what’s on my mind. Sometimes that’s going to be an idea from my therapy practice. Sometimes I’ll tell you a story. I’m hoping that some of these stories will turn into book chapters. Whatever comes out, I’m looking forward to the process […]
