About Us
HELP IS HERE
Therapy
SCHEDULE AN APPOINTMENT
Stay or Go Decisions
Ending a long term relationship is a pivot point for your life. Partners will be effected. Kids might be involved. Sometimes there are friends and family involved. You might have business concerns to consider. Clients come to me when something has to change. I can either work with you and your partner towards developing a healthier relationship or help create a plan to say goodbye.
Infidelity
Infidelity isn’t just a sexual transgression. Emotional affairs, digital cheating, financial betrayal, and out-of-control sexual behaviors are also considered issues of infidelity. If you or your partner are currently having issues with infidelity we can work through these issues together.
Sexual Health
Sex is rarely talked about, whether you are in a straight or LGBTQIA relationship. Stress, mismatched libido, body image, entitlement, age, and trauma all impact a healthy sexual relationship. Sex therapy and education are fundamental to our best sexual selves. I can help create a safe space to work through your issues and build a better sex life.
Communication
Bad fighting equals a bad relationship. There are always problems within a relationship, but learning how to solve or manage the problems together are key to a successful and healthy partnership. I can teach you how to communicate your needs better using good complaining skills and understand your partner’s needs through effective listening skills.
Author
About ME
No one goes to a therapist to brag about how great their life is going. We go to therapy because everything we tried to make our lives and our relationships better didn’t work. I’m no different. Mine is a recovery story.Once I was a codependent person with Major Depressive Disorder and Generalized Anxiety Disorder. Today, I’m in remission thanks to a great team and regular work.
My own therapy was essential to my recovery. I’m a believer in the process so I’m dedicated to working with others. You can do this work too. Your life and your relationships can be better.
I’m a Gen X, cisgendered, heterosexual white guy. I’m a clinical social worker licensed in Texas and in Colorado. I’m a psychotherapist. I work with people who want better relationships.
I’ve been practicing privately since 2006. Work with me face-to-face in Houston, TX or Telluride, CO. Work with me online wherever you are on VSee.
Prior to opening my psychotherapy business I was a staff social worker at The Menninger Clinic in Houston, TX. I did family therapy as part of their adolescent treatment team. I was a behavior therapist for adolescents in their Obsessive Compulsive Disorders treatment program.
I have a bachelors degree is in business from Southern Methodist University in Dallas, TX. My Master of Business Administration and Master of Social Work are from the University of Houston. I completed fellowships at the Baylor College of Medicine, the Menninger Clinic, and the Houston/Galveston Psychoanalytic Institute. I trained at the Gottman Institute in Seattle, WA up to level three (their are four) and I’m a member of Esther Perel’s online training salon called Sessions. I’m currently in the University of Michigan College of Social Work’s Sexual Health Certificate Program.
I was a business person before I was a psychotherapist. I started my career at my third generation family business as the Director of Human Resources. Later I led a group of environmental testing laboratories in the early 2000s. I returned to run the business after my parents died. I’m happy that the business is still going strong.
I’m also the author of the self help book The Art of Meaningful Living. It was published in 2009 and sold dozens of copies nationwide.
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Effective tips and advice to improve your life and relationships.
Longevity Alone Is A Terrible Measure of Happiness
I can’t decide if this is more about relationships or sexual experiences so take your pick. Relationship satisfaction is an underrated measure of what makes for a “good relationship” and tenure is overrated. I’ve known a few married couples who get lots of praise for hitting milestone anniversaries: 30, 40, 50 years and I inevitably […]
To Do List Junkies, Do We Get To Just Be?
Full disclosure, I’m in recovery from depression and anxiety disorders. It’s been a number of good years in recovery. There are days when that recovery feels like an expansive landscape stretching far out in front of me. Then there are other days when my recovery feels like a precipice that I’m clinging on to for […]
Be Someone You Can Trust
We talk about trust in our relationships all the time and for good reason. Trust is a fundamental component of rock star relationships. When it’s there we have a sense of security and safety at home that lets us venture out into the world with confidence. When trust is shattered it makes us question everything. […]
Responsibility Allergies Can Be Treated (just not with shots)
After a year or so of writing #therapynotes, people mention this one to me more than any other. Some people are allergic to responsibility. So this is a sequel of sorts. I know all about people who are allergic to responsibility because I was one. I spent most of my 20s living in victimhood. Every […]
Turn That Fight Into A Problem For Two Or More To Solve
John Gottman often says, “You pick your partner and you pick your problems.” Esther Perel says, “When you pick your partner you pick your story.” Sometimes I like to ponder these two things…what a therapy nerd. John’s point is in part that we are going to have problems with any partner we choose. I think […]
Expectations Are The Arch-Enemy Of A Good Time
I have mixed feelings about this #therapynote. My feelings about expectations depend on the context. Context matters. Context matters in all things most especially in sex (thinking of you @enagoski). More on that another time. When I wrote this particular note about the title fight of expectations v good times I was thinking about my […]
Paranoid People Can Be Right But Can We Be Happy?
Are you motivated most by avoidance or desire? Avoidant leaning folks like me tend to be able to see the worst case scenario easily in any situation. When we avoidants go too far we venture into paranoia. “Nothing is going to work.” “Everyone’s out to get me.” “Everything I do is wrong.” There’s no quicker […]
First, Figure Out If You Are The Problem
Seriously, you might be. Some of us who tend to want to escape responsibility need to hear that. On the other hand there are some of us martyr types out there that think EVERYTHING is our fault. Pro tip: it’s not. When you’re the problem it hurts. Guilt, shame, regret, disappointment are just some of […]
When You’re Scared You Might Need The Right Touch
I’m loving my sex therapy training at the University of Michigan. That formal training is coming to an end in April. 😢 I know that this experience is going to leave me inspired to learn more. My punch list of deeper dive topics include body image, kink, STIs and general medical treatments, and of course […]
Your Relationship Is A Balancing Act Between “I” and “We”
When it comes to our relationships we’re all bipolar in the colloquial sense. We think “I want to be me separate, distinct, unique.” AND we think, “I want to be with you (or y’all) in sync, connected, together.” We can’t have both moment to moment but we should strive to have balance between “I” and […]
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Our life stories are told through our relationships. Don’t like your story so far? Change it. Improve your relationships to improve your life. I can help you.
Some relationships can be amazing with healing and with the right skills. Other relationships need to end. I can help you decide if your relationship can be amazing or if it’s time to say goodbye.
We all seek relationships but are usually unprepared to maintain them. Finding the “right” person or people is the start of making a relationship that’s right for you. The rest can be a life’s work of building your relationship and your sex lives. Learn what you need to tell your own epic story through amazing relationships.
Author
About ME
No one goes to a therapist to brag about how great their life is going. We go to therapy because everything we tried to make our lives and our relationships better didn’t work. I’m no different. Mine is a recovery story.
Once I was a codependent person with Major Depressive Disorder and Generalized Anxiety Disorder. Today, I’m in remission thanks to a great team and regular work.
My own therapy was essential to my recovery. I’m a believer in the process so I’m dedicated to working with others. You can do this work too. Your life and your relationships can be better.
I’m a Gen X, cisgendered, heterosexual white guy. I’m a clinical social worker licensed in Texas and in Colorado. I’m a psychotherapist. I work with people who want better relationships.
I’ve been practicing privately since 2006. Work with me face-to-face in Houston, TX or Telluride, CO. Work with me online wherever you are on VSee.
Prior to opening my psychotherapy business I was a staff social worker at The Menninger Clinic in Houston, TX. I did family therapy as part of their adolescent treatment team. I was a behavior therapist for adolescents in their Obsessive Compulsive Disorders treatment program.
I have a bachelors degree is in business from Southern Methodist University in Dallas, TX. My Master of Business Administration and Master of Social Work are from the University of Houston. I completed fellowships at the Baylor College of Medicine, the Menninger Clinic, and the Houston/Galveston Psychoanalytic Institute. I trained at the Gottman Institute in Seattle, WA up to level three (their are four) and I’m a member of Esther Perel’s online training salon called Sessions. I’m currently in the University of Michigan College of Social Work’s Sexual Health Certificate Program.
I was a business person before I was a psychotherapist. I started my career at my third generation family business as the Director of Human Resources. Later I led a group of environmental testing laboratories in the early 2000s. I returned to run the business after my parents died. I’m happy that the business is still going strong.
I’m also the author of the self help book The Art of Meaningful Living. It was published in 2009 and sold dozens of copies nationwide.
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Effective, affordable classes to improve your life, relationship or marriage.
Longevity Alone Is A Terrible Measure of Happiness
I can’t decide if this is more about relationships or sexual experiences so take your pick. Relationship satisfaction is an underrated measure of what makes for a “good relationship” and tenure is overrated. I’ve known a few married couples who get lots of praise for hitting milestone anniversaries: 30, 40, 50 years and I inevitably […]
To Do List Junkies, Do We Get To Just Be?
Full disclosure, I’m in recovery from depression and anxiety disorders. It’s been a number of good years in recovery. There are days when that recovery feels like an expansive landscape stretching far out in front of me. Then there are other days when my recovery feels like a precipice that I’m clinging on to for […]
Be Someone You Can Trust
We talk about trust in our relationships all the time and for good reason. Trust is a fundamental component of rock star relationships. When it’s there we have a sense of security and safety at home that lets us venture out into the world with confidence. When trust is shattered it makes us question everything. […]
Responsibility Allergies Can Be Treated (just not with shots)
After a year or so of writing #therapynotes, people mention this one to me more than any other. Some people are allergic to responsibility. So this is a sequel of sorts. I know all about people who are allergic to responsibility because I was one. I spent most of my 20s living in victimhood. Every […]
Turn That Fight Into A Problem For Two Or More To Solve
John Gottman often says, “You pick your partner and you pick your problems.” Esther Perel says, “When you pick your partner you pick your story.” Sometimes I like to ponder these two things…what a therapy nerd. John’s point is in part that we are going to have problems with any partner we choose. I think […]
Expectations Are The Arch-Enemy Of A Good Time
I have mixed feelings about this #therapynote. My feelings about expectations depend on the context. Context matters. Context matters in all things most especially in sex (thinking of you @enagoski). More on that another time. When I wrote this particular note about the title fight of expectations v good times I was thinking about my […]
Paranoid People Can Be Right But Can We Be Happy?
Are you motivated most by avoidance or desire? Avoidant leaning folks like me tend to be able to see the worst case scenario easily in any situation. When we avoidants go too far we venture into paranoia. “Nothing is going to work.” “Everyone’s out to get me.” “Everything I do is wrong.” There’s no quicker […]
First, Figure Out If You Are The Problem
Seriously, you might be. Some of us who tend to want to escape responsibility need to hear that. On the other hand there are some of us martyr types out there that think EVERYTHING is our fault. Pro tip: it’s not. When you’re the problem it hurts. Guilt, shame, regret, disappointment are just some of […]
When You’re Scared You Might Need The Right Touch
I’m loving my sex therapy training at the University of Michigan. That formal training is coming to an end in April. 😢 I know that this experience is going to leave me inspired to learn more. My punch list of deeper dive topics include body image, kink, STIs and general medical treatments, and of course […]
Your Relationship Is A Balancing Act Between “I” and “We”
When it comes to our relationships we’re all bipolar in the colloquial sense. We think “I want to be me separate, distinct, unique.” AND we think, “I want to be with you (or y’all) in sync, connected, together.” We can’t have both moment to moment but we should strive to have balance between “I” and […]
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At its heart psychotherapy is a healing relationship focused on you. It’s constructed so that your therapist is never the center of attention. A therapeutic is intentionally unbalanced and focused on you the client so that you can make the life changes you want. Once you’re committed to doing the work of therapy and not just going through the motions there must be a good fit between you and your therapist. With effort and fit therapy can change your life. Without either it will fail.
Psychotherapy and relationship counseling can provide solutions to specific problems but it can’t implement them. You have to do that. A good therapeutic relationship can play an important part of a broader treatment plan for many mental disorders. Therapy will usually include some exploration of your past which can unearth difficult feelings. Sometimes doing good work feels bad. Thankfully feelings a temporary. When the pain shows up you won’t have to face it alone if you’re in your therapy. Making life changes can be difficult and it will also change your existing relationships. It’s up to you to consider these changes. You can work through consequences, even unexpected ones, with your therapist.
Get in Touch
Call Today
4203 Montrose, Suite 350, Houston, TX
About Us
HELP IS HERE
Therapy
SCHEDULE AN APPOINTMENT
Stay or Go Decisions
Ending a long term relationship is a pivot point for your life. Partners will be effected. Kids might be involved. Sometimes there are friends and family involved. You might have business concerns to consider. Clients come to me when something has to change. I can either work with you and your partner towards developing a healthier relationship or help create a plan to say goodbye.
Infidelity
Infidelity isn’t just a sexual transgression. Emotional affairs, digital cheating, financial betrayal, and out-of-control sexual behaviors are also considered issues of infidelity. If you or your partner are currently having issues with infidelity we can work through these issues together.
Sexual Health
Sex is rarely talked about, whether you are in a straight or LGBTQIA relationship. Stress, mismatched libido, body image, entitlement, age, and trauma all impact a healthy sexual relationship. Sex therapy and education are fundamental to our best sexual selves. I can help create a safe space to work through your issues and build a better sex life.
Communication
Bad fighting equals a bad relationship. There are always problems within a relationship, but learning how to solve or manage the problems together are key to a successful and healthy partnership. I can teach you how to communicate your needs better using good complaining skills and understand your partner’s needs through effective listening skills.
Author
About ME
No one goes to a therapist to brag about how great their life is going. We go to therapy because everything we tried to make our lives and our relationships better didn’t work. I’m no different. Mine is a recovery story.Once I was a codependent person with Major Depressive Disorder and Generalized Anxiety Disorder. Today, I’m in remission thanks to a great team and regular work.
My own therapy was essential to my recovery. I’m a believer in the process so I’m dedicated to working with others. You can do this work too. Your life and your relationships can be better.
I’m a Gen X, cisgendered, heterosexual white guy. I’m a clinical social worker licensed in Texas and in Colorado. I’m a psychotherapist. I work with people who want better relationships.
I’ve been practicing privately since 2006. Work with me face-to-face in Houston, TX or Telluride, CO. Work with me online wherever you are on VSee.
Prior to opening my psychotherapy business I was a staff social worker at The Menninger Clinic in Houston, TX. I did family therapy as part of their adolescent treatment team. I was a behavior therapist for adolescents in their Obsessive Compulsive Disorders treatment program.
I have a bachelors degree is in business from Southern Methodist University in Dallas, TX. My Master of Business Administration and Master of Social Work are from the University of Houston. I completed fellowships at the Baylor College of Medicine, the Menninger Clinic, and the Houston/Galveston Psychoanalytic Institute. I trained at the Gottman Institute in Seattle, WA up to level three (their are four) and I’m a member of Esther Perel’s online training salon called Sessions. I’m currently in the University of Michigan College of Social Work’s Sexual Health Certificate Program.
I was a business person before I was a psychotherapist. I started my career at my third generation family business as the Director of Human Resources. Later I led a group of environmental testing laboratories in the early 2000s. I returned to run the business after my parents died. I’m happy that the business is still going strong.
I’m also the author of the self help book The Art of Meaningful Living. It was published in 2009 and sold dozens of copies nationwide.
Blog
insights
Effective tips and advice to improve your life and relationships.
Longevity Alone Is A Terrible Measure of Happiness
I can’t decide if this is more about relationships or sexual experiences so take your pick. Relationship satisfaction is an underrated measure of what makes for a “good relationship” and tenure is overrated. I’ve known a few married couples who get lots of praise for hitting milestone anniversaries: 30, 40, 50 years and I inevitably […]
To Do List Junkies, Do We Get To Just Be?
Full disclosure, I’m in recovery from depression and anxiety disorders. It’s been a number of good years in recovery. There are days when that recovery feels like an expansive landscape stretching far out in front of me. Then there are other days when my recovery feels like a precipice that I’m clinging on to for […]
Be Someone You Can Trust
We talk about trust in our relationships all the time and for good reason. Trust is a fundamental component of rock star relationships. When it’s there we have a sense of security and safety at home that lets us venture out into the world with confidence. When trust is shattered it makes us question everything. […]
Responsibility Allergies Can Be Treated (just not with shots)
After a year or so of writing #therapynotes, people mention this one to me more than any other. Some people are allergic to responsibility. So this is a sequel of sorts. I know all about people who are allergic to responsibility because I was one. I spent most of my 20s living in victimhood. Every […]
Turn That Fight Into A Problem For Two Or More To Solve
John Gottman often says, “You pick your partner and you pick your problems.” Esther Perel says, “When you pick your partner you pick your story.” Sometimes I like to ponder these two things…what a therapy nerd. John’s point is in part that we are going to have problems with any partner we choose. I think […]
Expectations Are The Arch-Enemy Of A Good Time
I have mixed feelings about this #therapynote. My feelings about expectations depend on the context. Context matters. Context matters in all things most especially in sex (thinking of you @enagoski). More on that another time. When I wrote this particular note about the title fight of expectations v good times I was thinking about my […]
Paranoid People Can Be Right But Can We Be Happy?
Are you motivated most by avoidance or desire? Avoidant leaning folks like me tend to be able to see the worst case scenario easily in any situation. When we avoidants go too far we venture into paranoia. “Nothing is going to work.” “Everyone’s out to get me.” “Everything I do is wrong.” There’s no quicker […]
First, Figure Out If You Are The Problem
Seriously, you might be. Some of us who tend to want to escape responsibility need to hear that. On the other hand there are some of us martyr types out there that think EVERYTHING is our fault. Pro tip: it’s not. When you’re the problem it hurts. Guilt, shame, regret, disappointment are just some of […]
When You’re Scared You Might Need The Right Touch
I’m loving my sex therapy training at the University of Michigan. That formal training is coming to an end in April. 😢 I know that this experience is going to leave me inspired to learn more. My punch list of deeper dive topics include body image, kink, STIs and general medical treatments, and of course […]
Your Relationship Is A Balancing Act Between “I” and “We”
When it comes to our relationships we’re all bipolar in the colloquial sense. We think “I want to be me separate, distinct, unique.” AND we think, “I want to be with you (or y’all) in sync, connected, together.” We can’t have both moment to moment but we should strive to have balance between “I” and […]
Get in Touch
Call Today
4203 Montrose, Suite 350, Houston, TX
I provide psychotherapy and counseling a select group of clients. I’ve worked with people to solve specific problems. To marry or to divorce? Stay together or break-up? Have children or not? Open our relationship or not? For all these questions there’s also the question of how to we go forward once a decision is made. I help with that. Clients have come to understand themselves and even change themselves so they can be different in their current relationship or the next.