OCD / ANXIETY
RELATIONSHIPS
SEXUAL HEALTH
- Generalized Anxiety Disorder
- Health Anxiety
- Panic Disorder
- Stay of Go Relationship Decisions
- Infidelity
- Desire Discrepancies
- Out of Control Sexual Behavior
- Destructive Communication
- Opening Up Problems
- Monogamy and Polyamory Problems
- Toxic Shame
- Toxic Guilt
- Anorgasmia
- Erectile Dysfunction
- Premature Ejacualtion
- Inhibited Ejaculation
- Sexual Identity Problems
- Erotic Identity Problems
RELATIONSHIPS
- Better communication skills
- Infidelity recovery
- Stay or go decisions
- Relationship rebuilds
- Monogamy contracts
- Polyamory relationships
- Mismatched sexual desire
- Life transitions
- Infidelity
- Desire Discrepancies
- Out of Control Sexual Behavior
- Destructive Communication
- Opening Up Problems
- Monogamy and Polyamory Problems
SEXUAL HEALTH
- Trauma recovery
- Sexual intelligence
- Out of control sexual behavior aka “sex addiction”
- Sexual identity
- Erotic identity
- Mismatched sexual desire
- Anorgasmia
- Vaginismus
- Premature ejaculation
- Inhibited ejaculation
- Erectile dysfunction
- Toxic Shame
- Toxic Guilt
- Premature Ejacualtion
- Inhibited Ejaculation
- Sexual Identity Problems
- Erotic Identity Problems
ANXIETY
- Trauma recovery
- Anxiety recovery
- Depression recovery
- Toxic shame recovery
- Toxic guilt recovery
- Sexual identity
- Erotic identity
- Generalized anxiety
- Health anxiety
- OCD
- Alexithymia
- Complex grief
- Life transitions
- Generalized Anxiety Disorder
- Health Anxiety
- Panic Disorder
I’m a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW), a psychotherapist and a sex therapist. I have a secular perspective. The Gottmans, Esther Perel, and the University of Michigan’s sexual health program all inform my style.
I provide education, coaching, and intensive therapy. Some clients need one or two of those. Some need all three. I have specialty training in treating mental health disorders. I’ve worked extensively with clients suffering from anxiety disorders like Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, personality disorders like Borderline Personality Disorder, and mood disorders like Major Depressive Disorder. Over the years I’ve worked in private practice, outpatient clinics, residential treatment centers, and acute care hospitals.
Now I focus my work on people who want better relationships. John and Julie Gottman trained me. I’ve been a member of Esther Perel’s online training salon Sessions since it’s inception. I’ve studied at the University of Houston where I got my Master of Social Work. My clinical psychotherapy foundations were poured at the Baylor College of Medicine in Houston and the Houston Galveston Psychoanalytic Institute. I completed the University of Michigan School of Social Work’s Sexual Health Certificate Program after my clients taught me that I needed more sex therapy skills.
I use everything I know to help you. I’m always learning more and folding that into our work. If this is what you’re looking for in a therapist then you can schedule your appointment today.
I’m a secular psychotherapist and sex therapist. I believe that we all have fundamental rights to build happy lives by our own norms. My wish is for all of us to have the best physical, emotional, and sexual health possible. I hope that we all live fully with as many pleasurable experiences as possible.
We each have our own sexual and gender identities. I’m an LGBTQIA friendly therapist and proud supporter of the Human Rights Campaign. I’m kink friendly therapist. We each have our own erotic orientation. We should all get to experience ourselves and our consenting partners without shame.
I’m a clinical social worker with specialty training in mental health disorders. I’ve worked extensively with clients suffering from anxiety disorders like Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, personality disorders like Borderline Personality Disorder, and mood disorders like Bipolar Disorder. Over the years I’ve done my work in private practice, outpatient clinics, residential treatment centers, and acute care hospitals.
Now I focus my work on people who want better relationships. I trained with the John and Julie Gottman to learn their Gottman Method of couple therapy. I’ve been a member of Esther Perel’s online training salon to bring the erotic in with the relational to help my people. I’ve studied at the University of Michigan’s School of Social Work in their Sexual Health Certificate Program because my clients taught me that I needed more sex therapy skills.
I use everything I know to help my clients. I always will. If I sound like a fit for what you’re looking for in a therapist schedule your appointment today.
No one comes into therapy to brag about how great things are going. We come into therapy because we just can’t stand our lives or our relationships as they are anymore. I know. I’ve been there. You’ve mustered a lot of courage, energy, and effort just to find me. Thank you. I appreciate you.
I became a therapist because therapy changed my life for the better. It’s my hope that some knowledge, some coaching, and maybe therapy will do the same for you.
I was a business person before I was a therapist. My undergraduate degree is a BBA in organizational behavior. I even went on to get an MBA. My business career was mostly in my third generation family business. It needed a family therapist and got one. My love for people and my desire to help them inspired me to become a psychotherapist.
I became a psychotherapist through Clinical Social Work. Today I work in my own practice. I got here by completing a Master’s degree in Social Work, working with hundreds of people, and getting trained by some great psychotherapists. I’m always learning. It’s one of my professional commitments. I’ll use everything I can get my hands on to help you.
I have worked in psychiatric hospitals, residential treatment centers, and outpatient clinics. I’ve treated people with depression, Bipolar Disorder, anxiety, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, and Borderline Personality Disorder. I’ve watched as clients have recovered and built happy lives. The work isn’t always easy but it’s always worth it.
Today I work with people who want better relationships. I’ve trained with the Gottmans, with Esther Perel, and at the University of Michigan’s sexual health program. I’m a relationship and sex therapist.
I look forward to working with you so that you can have a rockstar relationship, a fulfilling sex life, and your happy life.
I became a therapist because therapy changed my life for the better. My sincere hope is that it will do the same for you.
I was a business person before I was a therapist. My undergraduate degree was in business organizational behavior to be specific. While in business, mostly my third generation family business, I was always drawn to the people more than the numbers. Eventually my love for people combined with my desire to help them inspired me to change careers.
I became a therapist in my own private practice by completing a Master’s degree in Social Work, working with hundreds of people, and being trained by some of the finest psychotherapists I can imagine. My learning continues today after all these years and I imagine it will go on for my entire career. After all there are so many things to learn and so many ways to help. I use all I can to help my people.
I have worked in psychiatric hospitals, residential treatment centers, and outpatient clinics. I’ve treated people with depression, anxiety, obsessive compulsive disorder, and borderline personality disorder just to name a few. I’ve had the great good fortune to go on journeys with clients that led to recovery and more importantly happier lives. That’s not to say that the work was easy. It wasn’t. It isn’t, but in my experience the good things are rarely easy.
Today I focus on relationships. I work with people who want better ones. I’ve trained with the Gottmans, with Esther Perel, and at the University of Michigan to be a better relationship and sex therapist. I bring all of that together with my experience to the table to help my people.
Sex therapy is an entirely separate specialty of psychotherapy as is relationship therapy. I’ve sought out and completed specialty training in both. I work with people at crossroads in their relationships people who are trying to decide to stay or go. I’ve helped people through the pains of infidelity, heartbreak, and sexual dysfunction. Things can be better. There’s more for you than suffering.
Today my practice is entirely online in part because of the COVID-19 pandemic but mostly because of a shared dream. If we do relationship therapy together then you will most likely hear lots about shared dreams. I live in Texas and in Colorado. I’m licensed in both states and I provide telehealth service from each of them.
My dream of being an entrepreneur psychotherapist came true after a few stints in bigger business. I love it and I’d love to help you.
Telehealth
My entire practice is online. I’ve offered telehealth sessions through HIPAA compliant platforms since 2016. Due to the COVID-19 pandemic I no longer offer in-person sessions.
Telehealth allows me to provide education and coaching services nationwide and around the world where clients have access to high speed internet connectivity. I can also provide intensive therapy services via telehealth to clients in Texas and Colorado where I am licensed.
Please watch the video below for tips on how to get the most from your teleheatlh sessions
My Notes
Motives Matter
It’s a hallmark in criminal procedurals for detectives and prosecutors to determine if a suspect had motive for a crime. I think of motive as trying to guess the “why” someone did something. It’s something that I spend a lot of time wondering about with clients who are in stay or go situations in their […]
In Case of Emergency Call 911?
When I was a young therapist in training I was taught to call 911 if a client was in danger. In other words if a client was suicidal I was trained to call the Houston Police Department. To this day I hear therapists with outgoing voicemail message like the one I had in the 2000s. […]
On Chronic Pain
I’ve lived along side chronic pain suffers for about 20 years. I’ve had it myself. Chronic pain is a matter of time not sensation. The Mayo Clinic describes pain as chronic if it lasts 12 weeks or more. Chronic pain can be steady. It can be intermittent. The pain might ache, it might burn, it […]
Longevity Alone Is A Terrible Measure of Happiness
I can’t decide if this is more about relationships or sexual experiences so take your pick. Relationship satisfaction is an underrated measure of what makes for a “good relationship” and tenure is overrated. I’ve known a few married couples who get lots of praise for hitting milestone anniversaries: 30, 40, 50 years and I inevitably […]
To Do List Junkies, Do We Get To Just Be?
Full disclosure, I’m in recovery from depression and anxiety disorders. It’s been a number of good years in recovery. There are days when that recovery feels like an expansive landscape stretching far out in front of me. Then there are other days when my recovery feels like a precipice that I’m clinging on to for […]
Be Someone You Can Trust
We talk about trust in our relationships all the time and for good reason. Trust is a fundamental component of rock star relationships. When it’s there we have a sense of security and safety at home that lets us venture out into the world with confidence. When trust is shattered it makes us question everything. […]
Responsibility Allergies Can Be Treated (just not with shots)
After a year or so of writing #therapynotes, people mention this one to me more than any other. Some people are allergic to responsibility. So this is a sequel of sorts. I know all about people who are allergic to responsibility because I was one. I spent most of my 20s living in victimhood. Every […]
Turn That Fight Into A Problem For Two Or More To Solve
John Gottman often says, “You pick your partner and you pick your problems.” Esther Perel says, “When you pick your partner you pick your story.” Sometimes I like to ponder these two things…what a therapy nerd. John’s point is in part that we are going to have problems with any partner we choose. I think […]
Expectations Are The Arch-Enemy Of A Good Time
I have mixed feelings about this #therapynote. My feelings about expectations depend on the context. Context matters. Context matters in all things most especially in sex (thinking of you @enagoski). More on that another time. When I wrote this particular note about the title fight of expectations v good times I was thinking about my […]
Paranoid People Can Be Right But Can We Be Happy?
Are you motivated most by avoidance or desire? Avoidant leaning folks like me tend to be able to see the worst case scenario easily in any situation. When we avoidants go too far we venture into paranoia. “Nothing is going to work.” “Everyone’s out to get me.” “Everything I do is wrong.” There’s no quicker […]
Contact Me
4203 Montrose, Suite 350, Houston, TX
No one comes to a therapist to brag about how great their life is going. We all come to therapy at one point or another because everything we could think to try on our own to make our lives happier hasn’t worked well enough. I was no different. Mine is a recovery story.
I provide psychotherapy and counseling a select group of clients. I’ve worked with people to solve specific problems. To marry or to divorce? Stay together or break-up? Have children or not? Open our relationship or not? For all these questions there’s also the question of how to we go forward once a decision is made. I help with that. Clients have come to understand themselves and even change themselves so they can be different in their current relationship or the next.