No one comes to a therapist to brag about how great their life is going. We all come to therapy at one point or another because everything we could think to try on our own to make our lives happier hasn’t worked well enough. I was no different. Mine is a recovery story.
At one point in my life I had Major Depressive Disorder (Recurrent), Generalized Anxiety Disorder, and Alcohol Abuse. Those titles don’t include the dependent personality that I carried around inside my head and heart for most of my adult life. Today, I don’t meet any diagnostic criteria. I’m in remission so to speak.
As you might have guessed my own therapy was essential to my recovery. I liked it so much that I decided to do it for a living. When I first walked into a therapist’s office I had no idea what I was getting into. I just knew that I tried everything that I could think of to make life better and none of it worked. I needed new ideas, new approaches, new strategies to make my life good. Though therapy and a bunch of other things I got what I needed. My life is good. Yours can be too.
I’m a cisgendered heterosexual white guy in my 40s. I’m also a clinical social worker and a psychotherapist. I love working with people who want better relationships. I provide relationship therapy, individual therapy, and sometimes family therapy. I’ve been practicing privately since 2006. I see clients in my office and more often now over a telemedicine platform. It’s like FaceTime with better security. I’m licensed to practice in Texas and in Colorado.
Prior to opening my psychotherapy business I was a staff social worker at The Menninger Clinic in Houston, TX. I did family therapy as part of their adolescent treatment team. I was also a behavior therapist in Menninger’s now closed Obsessive Compulsive Disorders treatment program.
I must like school more than I thought when I was a kid because I’ve been to a lot of classes. My bachelors degree is in business from Southern Methodist University in Dallas, TX. I got a Master of Business Administration and a Master of Social Work from the University of Houston. I’ve done three fellowships in my career. The first was at the Baylor College of Medicine. The second was at the Menninger Clinic for that OCD program. The third was at the Houston/Galveston Psychoanalytic Institute. I trained at the Gottman Institute in Seattle, WA up to level three (their are four) and I’m a member of Esther Perel’s online training salon called Sessions. Gottman’s and Perel’s programs focus on relationships. My next training opportunity is a University of Michigan certificate program in sex therapy and sex education.
I was a business person before I became a psychotherapist. I started my career working in my third generation family business. I was the Director of Human Resources in the 1990s. I led a group of environmental testing laboratories in the early 2000s. I returned to run the business after my parents died. The business is still going strong although I’m no longer associated with the firm.
I’m also the author of the self help book The Art of Meaningful Living. It was published in 2009 and sold dozens of copies nationwide.
Kudos if you’ve read this far and thank you.
I provide psychotherapy and counseling a select group of clients. I’ve worked with people to solve specific problems. To marry or to divorce? Stay together or break-up? Have children or not? Open our relationship or not? For all these questions there’s also the question of how to we go forward once a decision is made. I help with that. Clients have come to understand themselves and even change themselves so they can be different in their current relationship or the next.
Therapy isn’t something you have. It’s something you do. Psychotherapy and relationship counseling are collaborative processes. You can only get out of it if you put into it.
At its heart psychotherapy is a healing relationship focused on you. It’s constructed so that your therapist is never the center of attention. A therapeutic is intentionally unbalanced and focused on you the client so that you can make the life changes you want. Once you’re committed to doing the work of therapy and not just going through the motions there must be a good fit between you and your therapist. With effort and fit therapy can change your life. Without either it will fail.
Psychotherapy and relationship counseling can provide solutions to specific problems but it can’t implement them. You have to do that. A good therapeutic relationship can play an important part of a broader treatment plan for many mental disorders. Therapy will usually include some exploration of your past which can unearth difficult feelings. Sometimes doing good work feels bad. Thankfully feelings a temporary. When the pain shows up you won’t have to face it alone if you’re in your therapy. Making life changes can be difficult and it will also change your existing relationships. It’s up to you to consider these changes. You can work through consequences, even unexpected ones, with your therapist.
If you’re interesting in working with me individually I have an online practice that allows me to have clients anywhere there’s a high speed Internet signal. Email me if you’re interested about pricing and scheduling.